Is there someone out there in the same shoes as me??/?

Everytime i do something, it goes all pearshape. I just have come to the conclusion that maybe it's just the way i am. A simple thing, i end up messing it up. I get myself in a lot of complicating situations. I think there's not a situation that i havent come close to facing. I get scared to act on things, cos i m scared i ll just end up it tatters. Fed up. How do u go about controlling ur life?? Its just this fate thing i cant stand. You know what u have to do. But when fate decides, it just goes on and ruins all your plans. Is it just me who feels as though they were born to totally mess up everything?